I know someone who needs help
Domestic abuse is much more common than people realise, so its highly likely that you know someone who is living with abuse at home.
Talking about abuse can be difficult for you and the person subjected to it.
There are some basic actions you can take to offer support and assistance to a friend, family member, colleague or anyone who might reveal to you that they are living with domestic abuse
How to help
Understand and believe
Be ready to listen without judgement
Appreciate their fear and the situation
Provide emotional support
Don't tell them to leave
Don't tell them what to do
Offer your contact details
Offer to seek help
Offer to support them to contact us at the Derbyshire Domestic Abuse Helpline or The Elm Foundation.
Seek advice & support
Contact us at the Derbyshire Domestic Abuse Helpline for advice and support.
If you or your friend is in immediate danger always contact emergency services on 999.
Be a safe space
A victim needs to feel safe before they can open up about abuse. Let them know that you are a safe person to talk to. Only ask them about abuse in private and when you’re alone.
Give time to listen and not judge
Be patient. It can take time for a victim to recognise that they are in an abusive relationship, and several attempts to confide in anyone about it. Be ready to listen and not judge.
Victims are often dismissed, and their claims disbelieved. Trust what they tell you and reassure them that you believe them if they talk about abuse to you. Tell them that the abuse is not their fault and that everyone has the right to live without fear or harm.
Encourage them to contact us
Reassure them that help is available through the phone, text and online. Offer them choices about the services we offer locally and, if needed, the national services that are available too.