I’m planning on leaving
You may have been living with abuse for some time and now feel it’s the right time to leave.
Planning to leave does not mean you have to go through with it immediately, or at all. It can be helpful to think about all the options and how to address and overcome some of the difficulties you may face if you do decide to go.
Planning is really important if you are considering leaving an abusive relationship. Sometimes abusers will increase their violence if they suspect you are planning to leave. This can increase further when you have left, making it a potentially very dangerous time. It is important to remember that ending the relationship will not always mean the abuse will stop. It can often escalate, which is why careful planning around leaving is so important.
Things to consider
Think about online safety
Set aside money
Prepare to go
- Identification for you and your children
- Birth certificates
- National insurance number and card
- Passports, visas and work permits
- Money and any bank books, debit and credit cards
- Any cards relating to child benefit or other welfare payments
- Driving licence and car registration documents
- Documents relating to housing (mortgage details, rental or tenure agreements) and key insurances
- Any medication you or your children need
- Copies of keys
- Clothing and toiletries
- Photos, memorabilia, and favourite small toys for your children
- Any documents that relate to the abuse, e.g police reports, court orders, medical records